Wednesday, December 10, 2014
Farming for Salt
We went to the salt farms to see some salt
Picking and getting into fights was not my fault
My high school ring is locked in a bank vault
When we stop we have to halt but a man's name
is Walt but I can learn to make a malt
-Poem by Tami Cohen
Thursday, November 6, 2014
To hear the Unseen
Comics are a means of therapy, one can imagine to do whatever he
or she wants to do, the focus is shifted and we no longer are told what we
cannot do. We begin to see that we can do anything, as long as we put our mind
to it. This is something that continues to get me through dark times, and
people believe in me in that I want to share what I have learned to all comic
lovers, even the blind.
A few years ago, a former Lifeworks employee helped me record my
original disabled super human trilogy, so I can offer an audio version to the
blind. Another former employee helped me find a company who would offer my
audio files, and I called Learning Alley, formerly Recording For the Blind And
Dyslexic, RFB&D, to see if people actually do comic book recordings.
The answer was some, just like plenty of the vivid detail left out from the
comic book and the actual comic book script.
My education about comic book script writing has expanded since
furthering my education at Little Fish Comic Book Studio in Ocean Beach. Recently,
my educator, Alonso Nunez, had a meeting with KPBS, and he exclaimed that a
woman asked him if there are comics for the blind. My scripts are available for
anyone and everyone, with visual or auditory problems. In reality there is no
disability, we must focus on what we still have and use it to our advantage.
After the first year of the birth of Little Fish, Nunez lost his
business partner. This led to new approaches, a new work schedule and new
collaborated ideas. Comic Invasion began actually meaning
something, www.comicinvasion.org picked up
new character graphic novel titles, such as: Lady G On Fire, Thy Kingdom Come,
Round 2 and Kraken. The scripts are written and being edited.
An artist and funding is something I lack, but anyone's support
would be greatly appreciated. This can be done at no charge to you, just simply
log on to my site, and join the (ICN) Independent Comic Network for free. This
network lets you write anything and everything about comics to any member
around the world. Perhaps you can meet someone who knows someone who would be
interested in funding Comic Invasion. You can also donate whatever you can afford
to the PayPal button found at the bottom of the site's page. I thank you all
for your generous donations in advance.
Written by Alan Wubenhorst
Tuesday, September 30, 2014
Empathic Listening: Notes shared by Christy Tweedy
People frequently lose patience when
listening to another’s problem. Empathic listening is incompatible with being
in a hurry, or with the fast paced world around us. Such careful listening
requires that we, at least for the moment, place time on slow motion and suspend
our own thoughts and needs.
“Listen in ways that others can speak”
Potential Barriers
to Empathy
1.
Intellectual understanding of the situation.
Interrupting to understand at the thought level not at the feelings or heart
level.
2.
Sympathizing or commiserating. Talking about
your own experiences rather than giving full attention to speaker.
3.
Giving advice or trying to fix. Moving to
provide solutions without fully listening to feelings and needs.
4.
Explaining. “Let me tell you why this is
happening to you”.
5.
Correcting. Offering your own understanding of
the situation. You are not fully listening to feelings and giving space for the
speaker to express.
6.
Consoling. “I know you will be OK. You will do
well”.
7.
Telling a story or one-upping. Telling about
something that happened to you.
8.
Shutting down feelings by offering premature
reassurance, before the person is complete. Not hearing their experience and
jumping to response too quickly.
9.
Educating or evaluating. Remember- Empathy
before education.
10. Interrogating.
Asking questions to satisfy your own curiosity.
11. Believing
you already know what the person is going to say.
12. Having
a strong opinion or a belief that prevent listening to the speaker.
13. Interrupting.
Do not take pauses as a time for you to interrupt. Fully give space for the
other to express themselves.
Showing Our Listening Engagement
-
Respond it ways that show you’re engaged. “Tell
me more” or simply, “Interesting!”
-
Try repeating the last word or phrase that was
spoken “I feel like I wasn’t being heard…” Respond: “…wasn’t being heard”.
-
Empathetic Sayings: “I can see you are
suffering” “I can see that you’re in pain”
-
Body Language: Sit with the person. Face
them and allow your body and mind to focus on the person speaking.
-
Respect Pauses. Allow these pauses to take
place. A simple “Mmmm” still shows you are present and engaged.
Responding After Listening
-
Ask, “Are
you wanting to talk out your thoughts or explore some strategies?” Sometimes
people just want to vent and don’t want help solving. Ask this and it will
provide an understanding of what the need of the other person is.
-
Ask questions that promote internal reflection
towards the end. “How do you feel when
that happens?” “What are you feeling at this moment?” “Well, then, what do you
plan on doing?” “What options are you leaning to, which ones do you like the
least?”
-
If topic is repeatedly brought up, ask “what are you willing to change?” “If you
don’t know, what would it look like if you did know?”
-
When people repeat themselves in their story,
they are subconsciously feeling like they are not being listened to.
Ask Yourself These Questions
Am I…
1.
Allowing
the person with the problem to do most of the talking?
2.
Avoiding
premature conclusions based on my life experiences?
3.
Helping
the individual to better understand himself/herself?
4.
Permitting
the person to retain ownership of the challenge?
5.
Showing
the party that we are listening without judging?
Wednesday, September 10, 2014
Look Through My Eyes
by Lamika Thomas
Look
through my eyes
Past
the color
Past
the white
What
do you see?
I
have no pigment
I
have not shape
I
exist independently
Without
this shell, you call me!
There
are so many things I want to say
Opinions
and outlooks that will blow your mind
Creativity,
optimism, and uniqueness
But,
do you see me?
I
have no hair
I
have no face
I
exist independently
Without
this body, you call me
There
is so much to contribute
Much
to share
If
you would just listen and look past my eyes
Into
my soul
Hello
there, nice to meet you!
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